EVOLVE! cover article spring 2016

Jeff Brown

I wrote this book over a 3 year period, after resisting it for more than a decade. It took that long to make sense of the profound love experience that inspired it, one more like karmic boot camp than any idealized version of love relationship. Where I once imagined that the most expansive spiritual experience happens vertically — alone with the Godself on a meditation cushion — I came to realize that the more bountiful experience is often a horizontal one, when two destined souls meet on the bridge between their hearts. In just a few months, I encountered a much more colorful, inclusive universe than I had ever experienced in isolation. There was no question in my mind... We are not just here together to keep each other company. We are here together to show each other God. The portal is each other. Already on its 4th press run since May, An Uncommon Bond was inspired by this personal experience. On the most obvious level, it is a soulmate love story, but it is much more than that: a treatise on conscious love connection, a map of relational consciousness, a vision of divine possibility for those willing to brave the journey...



by Jeff Brown
Publisher: Enrealment Press
$19.95, ISBN13: 9780980885958

“I met her when I most expected it. I felt Sarah entering my heart weeks before we met in real time. She was quietly everywhere—a distant flute, a subtle shift in wind direction, a whisper of longing that called me home. I felt her in my bones, in my breath, in the sudden and inexplicable lifting of my weary spirit. She was orbiting me, close at heart, eagerly awaiting our cosmic re-acquaintance. The call of the beloved.”

“You don't measure love in time. You measure love in transformation. Sometimes the longest connections yield very little growth, while the briefest of encounters change everything. The heart doesn't wear a watch—it's timeless. It doesn't care how long you know someone. It doesn't care if you had a 40 year anniversary, if there is no juice in the connection. What the heart cares about is resonance. Resonance that opens it, Resonance that enlivens it, Resonance that calls it home. And when it finds it, the transformation begins...”

“When we are young, it's the illusion of perfection that we fall in love with. But as we age, it's the humanness that we fall in love with: the poignant story of overcoming, the depthful vulnerability of aging, the struggles that grew us in karmic stature, the way a soul shaped itself to accommodate its circumstances. With less energy to hold up our armor, we are revealed and, in the revealing, we call out to each other's hearts. Where before wounds turned us off, they are now revealed as proof that God exists. Where we once saw imperfect scars, we now see evidence of a life fully lived.”

“It's a different thing, to make a relationship sacred. When it's just the love you honor, you are still in two different worlds. You love her, she loves you, but what stands between you? What of the bridge between your hearts? What of the world you become together? Conscious relationship is all about the third element—the alchemical combination of two souls merging, the living breathing world that you co—create in love's cosmic kiln. It's the difference between loving and serving love. It's the difference between the narcissistic quest for ecstasy and the joys of deep devotion. You serve loving. You are a devotee to the dance. The conscious-nest is a world unto itself.”

“You can connect from all kinds of places—energetic harmony, sexual alchemy, intellectual alignment–but they won't sustain love over a lifetime. You need a thread that goes deeper, that moves below and beyond the shifting sands of compatibility. That thread is fascination—a genuine fascination with someone's inner world, with the way they organize reality, with the way they hearticulate their feelings, with the unfathomable and bottomless depths of their being. To hear their soul cry out to you again and again, and to never lose interest in what it is trying to convey. If there is that, then there will still be love when the body sickens, when the sexuality fades, when the perfection projection is long shattered. If there is that, you will swim in love's waters until the very last breath.”

“It's not about giving up on the fairy tale relationship. It's about landing it in reality. It's about giving the fairy feet. It's about peeling away the prince's armor and loving the real being down below. It's about wiping off the princess' makeup and loving her divine humanness. It's about finding romance in the naked fires of daily life. When our masks and disguises fall away, real love can reveal itself. Forget fairy tales, the human tale is much more satisfying. We just have to learn how to get turned on by humanness.”

“It doesn't matter how much two people love one another if they're developmentally incompatible, or if they don't have a shared willingness to become conscious. That's why we call it a relationship and not a loveship. Love alone isn't enough. If you want it to last, you have to relate to each other in ways that keep the ship afloat.”

“We have a natural tendency to assume that a remarkable chemistry between two souls is confirmation they are meant to be together. In the heat of profound feelings, it seems counter—intuitive to imagine ourselves separate from our beloved. But chemistry and longevity aren't necessarily companions. Just because we feel earth–shatteringly alive with someone doesn't mean they are supposed to be our life partner. They may have come for a very different reason—to awaken us, to expand us, to shatter us so wide open that we can never close again. Perhaps they were sent from afar to polish the rough diamond of our soul before vanishing into eternity. Better we surrender our expectations when the beloved comes. (S)he may just be dropping in for a visit. Is the kettle on?”

Jeff Brown

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